I tried as hard as I could to will tomorrow from coming but it doesn't look like I was very successful and it looks like as unfortunate as it is... February 22nd is going to come anyway and I will be turning 30.
I can't really explain why I don't want to turn 30 or why I am dreading this birthday so much. It just seems so final to be out of my 20s now.
I mean, I'm glad I'm no longer the idiot I once was, but still. I'm going to miss my younger days. I know a few years from now, I'll be saying the same things about being glad I'm no longer the idiot I am today (or something to that effect).
As some people know, CW and I have had to work on our birthdays so we decided to celebrate on our days off. We went bowling and out to eat yesterday with my parentals and grandma. Today we went out shopping. I bought a few books and a water infuser I've been wanting. I know, it's silly, but damnit, I really wanted one. I mean, all I drink is tea or water, why not liven it up once in a while?
Maybe that's why I'm so sad... it's like my birthday isn't a big deal because I have to work? I haven't had to work on my birthday in almost a frickin decade.
I'm off to wallow in self pity and read for my last 2 hours of being 29. Oh what an exciting life I live.
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Thursday, February 21, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Damn you, Getting Older...
Yesterday, my nephew turned 1. I love that little boy so much. As I thought about his birth and him getting older, it reminded me of my upcoming birth anniversary. In 9 days, I will be turning 30. Something I've been dreading for a long time now. Especially over the last year.
Everyone I tell laughs at me and tells me how young I still am, or that 30 isn't old. I'm not saying 30 is necessarily old, I'm just saying that I will no longer be young. I'm no longer going to be in my 20s. No longer a bebeh. I'm officially an adult. Yeah yeah, I know that I was considered an adult at 18 but seriously? Are we really adults at 18? At 30... I mean, you're forced to realize that you need a skin regimen and that wrinkles are going to start appearing eventually and that you're halfway to 60.
I mean, ever since CW and I started dating the years seem to fly by faster than normal so, before you know it, I will be looking at a giant 6 and a 0 on my birthday cake. I'm not even joking, it seems like just yesterday I was 25 and I was dating a young 29 year old man... now we're turning 30 and 34...
I don't have anything special planned for my birthday other than my normal family things, my husband isn't one to plan things on his own or even think of stuff like that, so I don't have to worry about over the hill surprises like my mom had on her 30th birthday. I'm just kinda sad that my 30th birthday is so depressing for me and is going to be so low key as well. I don't even know how to explain myself...
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
ALWAYS Say Goodbye Nicely
I consider CW and I to have a pretty good relationship. I mean, we aren't perfect by any means, but we get along very well. Most days I miss him while we are apart, (yes, I hope you caught the "most" part, we will get to that soon) and we usually have a good time while we are together. He, for the most part, makes my heart happy. There really isn't another person in the world for me. In all my 25 years before he and I became a couple, I never saw myself with anyone else for the rest of my life. I'd try to force the idea upon myself, but in reality, it was never there. This, truly is there. I see myself as a wrinkled old ass lady yelling at him to turn up the TV because I can't hear it, (okay, I'm lying, this is me now, but I can see a wrinkled version of myself doing it too).
So anyway, Sunday night I fell asleep pretty early but CW didn't come to bed till like 5 hours after I did, so this like bugged the shit out of me, I know this because I woke up periodically throughout the night, as I always do (thank you ruiner of lives who fucked up my sleep for my entire life, pardon my angry moment). Then, the next morning as his alarm was going off he didn't hear it because he had drank the night before and was in a heavy sleep so I kicked him awake. (Yeah, real mature on my end, I know. I'm an asshole.) I was still pissed off, what can I say, I hate going to bed alone, especially 5 hours alone. Two, maybe even 3 hours would have been forgivable, but 5 is just.... WTF? Especially when I had called out to him after 3 hours and then again after 4 hours. He knows I have nightmares on a pretty regular basis and if obviously I'm half asleep calling out searching for his ass, then it's probably a bad night, yet he still continued whatever he was doing. So yeah, I woke up in a kind of bad mood but I still was talking to him because I felt bad for kicking him awake.
Then I asked him a question about the wording of something, for those who know, my bipolar medication makes my memory foggy and things take a while to come to me. It's very frustrating on my end, but if what it takes for me to be a little more even is a little memory loss, then by all means, who the fuck am I? Anyway, he wasn't very helpful and I was frustrated already because I couldn't remember a simple ass word and I told him he sucked and he got all huffy with me and said that I told him he wasn't as important as The Bloggess and I was like WTF??? But since he's always running late for work, I couldn't even argue with him so I was like whatever. So he just said "I love you." and then left without kissing me goodbye. Now this is where I am angry. Yes, he may have said, I love you, but he didn't kiss me goodbye. What if something shitty would have happened yesterday like I had a heart attack or a helicopter crashed into the house or some other fucked up scenario and he didn't kiss me goodbye??? Or something would have happened to him? Then I would have never had that last kiss goodbye. So I was like FUCK YOU after that.
I started to calm down later on during the day, I half expected an apology text or call sometime during the day, but that never came, so I was like, well, maybe he'll come home with an apology Star Fucks drink or something, but NOPE. Not one fucking thing. He walked into the house like nothing fucking happened. He tried to give me a kiss, but that pissed me off all over again. Like, double time. Try to act like everything was fucking normal. WHAT. THE. FUCK. I was like completely happy up until that point too, sewing on my happy machine and shit.
So as he tried to kiss me hello I pulled away and said, "NOW, you wanna kiss me?" and scoffed. So he walked away. I didn't really talk to him much, during Jeopardy! he apologized for his actions that morning and I said , "yeah" (again, I'm an asshole) then he said, "That's all you're gonna say is 'yeah'?" and I said, "what do you want me to say, CW?" and he said, "That you forgive me." so I said, "ok, I forgive you." In the most dry tone in the world, (again, I repeat, I am an asshole, not only a term for men).
It just really bothers me that I have to sit here all day and worry about what bad shit is going to possibly happen that I may not be able to kiss the love of my life again, I know that it's a stupid fucking thing to worry about, I know this, I'm not completely braindead. Yet, it's something I will always do. It's like asking the world to fuck with you when you do something like that. Something shitty always happens to me. Like, I painted my cousin a painting he'd been asking for, for like 3 years, I saw him the day after I painted it, I had like 2 months before his birthday before I was going to be able to give it to him, I wanted to tell him about it, but it was a surprise, I didn't say shit to him. Later that night he died from alcohol poisoning thinking that no one loved him and he never knew about the painting that I did just for him, BTW he would be my age today had he not died 3 years ago. Then 12 years before that I was sick with a stupid cold so I didn't visit my grandpa so I didn't get him or my grandma sick and then he fucking dies on me before I was able to say goodbye. It's shit like that that scares the fuck out of me and makes it so that I have these fucking fears of losing people when you do fucked up shit like NOT KISSING SOMEONE GOODBYE WHEN YOU LEAVE FOR WORK.
I know it may be trivial for some people, but I'm bipolar, so I'm blaming that.
So anyway, Sunday night I fell asleep pretty early but CW didn't come to bed till like 5 hours after I did, so this like bugged the shit out of me, I know this because I woke up periodically throughout the night, as I always do (thank you ruiner of lives who fucked up my sleep for my entire life, pardon my angry moment). Then, the next morning as his alarm was going off he didn't hear it because he had drank the night before and was in a heavy sleep so I kicked him awake. (Yeah, real mature on my end, I know. I'm an asshole.) I was still pissed off, what can I say, I hate going to bed alone, especially 5 hours alone. Two, maybe even 3 hours would have been forgivable, but 5 is just.... WTF? Especially when I had called out to him after 3 hours and then again after 4 hours. He knows I have nightmares on a pretty regular basis and if obviously I'm half asleep calling out searching for his ass, then it's probably a bad night, yet he still continued whatever he was doing. So yeah, I woke up in a kind of bad mood but I still was talking to him because I felt bad for kicking him awake.
Then I asked him a question about the wording of something, for those who know, my bipolar medication makes my memory foggy and things take a while to come to me. It's very frustrating on my end, but if what it takes for me to be a little more even is a little memory loss, then by all means, who the fuck am I? Anyway, he wasn't very helpful and I was frustrated already because I couldn't remember a simple ass word and I told him he sucked and he got all huffy with me and said that I told him he wasn't as important as The Bloggess and I was like WTF??? But since he's always running late for work, I couldn't even argue with him so I was like whatever. So he just said "I love you." and then left without kissing me goodbye. Now this is where I am angry. Yes, he may have said, I love you, but he didn't kiss me goodbye. What if something shitty would have happened yesterday like I had a heart attack or a helicopter crashed into the house or some other fucked up scenario and he didn't kiss me goodbye??? Or something would have happened to him? Then I would have never had that last kiss goodbye. So I was like FUCK YOU after that.
I started to calm down later on during the day, I half expected an apology text or call sometime during the day, but that never came, so I was like, well, maybe he'll come home with an apology Star Fucks drink or something, but NOPE. Not one fucking thing. He walked into the house like nothing fucking happened. He tried to give me a kiss, but that pissed me off all over again. Like, double time. Try to act like everything was fucking normal. WHAT. THE. FUCK. I was like completely happy up until that point too, sewing on my happy machine and shit.
So as he tried to kiss me hello I pulled away and said, "NOW, you wanna kiss me?" and scoffed. So he walked away. I didn't really talk to him much, during Jeopardy! he apologized for his actions that morning and I said , "yeah" (again, I'm an asshole) then he said, "That's all you're gonna say is 'yeah'?" and I said, "what do you want me to say, CW?" and he said, "That you forgive me." so I said, "ok, I forgive you." In the most dry tone in the world, (again, I repeat, I am an asshole, not only a term for men).
It just really bothers me that I have to sit here all day and worry about what bad shit is going to possibly happen that I may not be able to kiss the love of my life again, I know that it's a stupid fucking thing to worry about, I know this, I'm not completely braindead. Yet, it's something I will always do. It's like asking the world to fuck with you when you do something like that. Something shitty always happens to me. Like, I painted my cousin a painting he'd been asking for, for like 3 years, I saw him the day after I painted it, I had like 2 months before his birthday before I was going to be able to give it to him, I wanted to tell him about it, but it was a surprise, I didn't say shit to him. Later that night he died from alcohol poisoning thinking that no one loved him and he never knew about the painting that I did just for him, BTW he would be my age today had he not died 3 years ago. Then 12 years before that I was sick with a stupid cold so I didn't visit my grandpa so I didn't get him or my grandma sick and then he fucking dies on me before I was able to say goodbye. It's shit like that that scares the fuck out of me and makes it so that I have these fucking fears of losing people when you do fucked up shit like NOT KISSING SOMEONE GOODBYE WHEN YOU LEAVE FOR WORK.
I know it may be trivial for some people, but I'm bipolar, so I'm blaming that.
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